Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get enough airtime: walking away from people who no longer align with you — without needing to explain yourself.
It’s not about being cold, cutting people off, or holding grudges. It’s simply about choosing your peace, your energy, and your growth over relationships that no longer serve you.
“You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep others warm.” – David Rowlands
People Grow Apart — and That’s Okay
As we move through life, our values shift, our goals evolve, and sometimes, our circles do too. You might find that someone who once felt like your kind of person just… doesn’t anymore. Maybe it’s their attitude, their energy, or the way they make you feel.
You don’t hate them. You don’t wish them harm. You’ve just grown in a different direction — and you’re not comfortable staying where you used to be.
“Not everyone is meant to stay. Some people are just passing through to teach you something.”
The Truth? You Don’t Need a Grand Exit Speech
Here’s the kicker: You don’t need to explain yourself to anyone.
You don’t need to write an essay, justify your feelings, or get everyone’s approval. Your intuition is valid. Your boundaries are valid. Your silence is valid.
If someone asks, sure, you can be kind and honest. But don’t feel guilty for moving on without a roundtable discussion. Sometimes, the best thing you can do — for you and for them — is to let the connection fade with grace.
“Growth is uncomfortable because you’ve never been here before. But it’s worth it.”
Protect Your Peace Like It’s Your Full-Time Job
Not everyone will understand your choices. And that’s perfectly fine. You weren’t put here to keep everyone happy — you’re here to live authentically, grow boldly, and surround yourself with people who get it.
So if someone’s vibe just doesn’t sit right anymore, don’t force it. Wish them well (even silently), and keep moving forward. Your energy is precious — treat it like gold.
“You don’t have to hate them. You just have to love yourself enough to walk away.”
Final Thought
You don’t owe everyone access to you.
You don’t owe everyone an explanation.
And you definitely don’t owe anyone the version of you that’s shrinking to fit their comfort zone.
Choose alignment over obligation.
Choose peace over pressure.
Choose you.
Cheers to that,
David – your friend in business 🤠👍